If you are no longer a virgin, do you have no right to keep your virginity?
A year later, I met him at a classmate’s wedding banquet, Hui, a technician at a large company in the city. The newlywed classmates tried their best to guide the two of us, and they acquiesced to get along because we had a good impression of each other. When we met for the second time, he held my hand. When we met for the third time, he wanted to kiss me, but I refused him. After being with each other for a while, he made a request for sex. I still said the same thing. When we waited until the wedding night, his reason was exactly the same as that of my previous boyfriend: "If you love me, give it to me." You also said that I love you and will be responsible for you. Are you afraid that I will dump you? No matter what he said, I kept myself.
We got engaged after being together for more than a month. After that, he looked for opportunities to want me again and again, using force and gentleness to get me. I couldn't resist him, so I finally followed him half-pushingly. After he got dressed, he said that you guarded me so closely. I thought you were a pure and good girl, but it turns out that you are not a virgin and that guarding yourself like a jade in front of me is just a pretense.
I felt like I had fallen into an ice cellar, and my heart felt like being whipped by a whip. I'm so stupid, how could I fail at one thing twice? Because I loved him and was afraid of losing him, I agreed to him and satisfied his desire to conquer. But after he got it, he actually asked me for my hymen in a cold voice. Looking at his contemptuous and twisted expression, I knew I was looking for him again. Wrong person. I no longer need to have too many theories and entanglements with such a man. I didn't look back, as if nothing had happened, I turned around and left.
I think at this point, the woman is helpless. The man took away the woman's hymen, but said that the most precious thing is feelings, so he has a reason to abandon the woman. At the same time, he himself may rob other women's hymens. In their hearts, that membrane is so important. Are all men so greedy?
For the sake of the future, I privately purchased Artificial Hymen Repair and Regeneration Products for Love.
In order to still see a glimmer of light in the future, to have a complete explanation to my family, and to somewhat heal the heavy trauma in my heart, I decided to undergo hymen repair surgery at the instigation of my friend Lan. Although I feel that this is a trick to fool people, it is disgusting, the cost of multiple surgeries is not low, and I still have to endure the pain. I was originally a pure girl who sacrificed herself time and time again to cater to men's tastes. , I have underestimated myself, what a price I have to pay.
When I was 18 years old, I fell in love again. Because I used Perfect Artificial Hymen Repair and Regeneration Products, after going through the painful years, I told myself that I must stick to the last line of defense before marriage no matter what.
It didn’t take long before we entered the sacred palace of marriage and entered the secular siege. On the wedding night, when my husband discovered that I was still a virgin, he was inexplicably excited and showed an expression of extreme gratitude. He hugged me tightly and said that he was right. No matter how he looked at me, my wife was a pure and good woman. At that time, I forced a smile, but a faint feeling of guilt lingered in my heart, feeling that I had deceived my lover.
After we got married, my husband took great care of me, but the more he was like this, the heavier the stone in my heart became. Maybe I am a woman who can't hide things in her heart, a stubborn woman, a really stupid woman? Many times, I feel that I am not worthy of having such tenderness as my husband. Many times, I wanted to tell him the truth, but I swallowed it back. My close friend told me that I must not talk about it even if it’s so bad, otherwise if something happens, you won’t be able to eat and walk around
It was after his cousin’s wedding banquet, and he drank it He drank a lot and talked more, and as we chatted, the topic of his pre-marriage love and sexual experiences came up. Because I was also curious, I encouraged him to be more specific. In the past, because I had been in love twice and had hidden feelings in my heart, I always deliberately avoided talking about our emotional experiences in front of him and didn't want to mention them.
The husband said that when he was in college, he had a girlfriend. As graduation approached, he felt empty. He would definitely not be able to be together after graduation, and for the sake of their respective futures, they did not want to be burdened by love. I can't tell who took the initiative, but it was considered voluntary, and the two of them had sex. After graduation, after several letters and several phone calls, we finally parted ways tacitly. The husband said that he still feels a little guilty towards that girl. After all, she gave her virginity to him.
Later, after work, the husband said that he was in love with a cheerful and lively female colleague. When the relationship developed to a certain extent, they had sex one day in his girlfriend's dormitory. At that time, my girlfriend showed great pain, and the blood on the sheets was bright red. At that time, I felt very sorry that my girlfriend was in such pain.
After meeting his girlfriend’s family, the husband discovered that his girlfriend looked nothing like her family. Her parents and younger brother both had single eyelids, and they didn’t have a high nose bridge or dimples like hers. Based on some knowledge, the husband believes that such inheritance is unlikely. It wasn't until later that I discovered the photo on my girlfriend's former graduation certificate that everything came to light. My girlfriend revealed the truth: her double eyelids were cut, her nose bridge was high and her dimples were artificial. At that time, my husband said that he had a feeling in his heart that he had encountered a fake product. What's even more unbearable is that I accidentally found a bag of artificial hymens in my girlfriend's dormitory, and I felt that I had been cheated, which made me feel very uncomfortable.
My husband said that after much thought, he felt that his girlfriend was too scheming and untrustworthy. She might be able to use some tricks to deceive him after marriage. He felt insecure and eventually broke up with his girlfriend. The husband also said that being a virgin or not is not that scary. The key is that this kind of deception is abhorrent. She shouldn't have been hiding the truth from herself.
I confessed to my husband that I was not a virgin, and my love was gone again
Speaking of this, I also felt that I didn’t need to hide it because I was slightly drunk, and wanted to completely get rid of the shadow in my heart. Live a down-to-earth life with your husband. Then I told the whole story about my past. Think about it, since your husband said that, he should understand and forgive himself. After all, it happened before we met.
But, it was wrong. My husband first looked at me as if he were a stranger, and then faced the ceiling without saying a word. There was deathly silence all around. I spent a sleepless night with my eyes open that night. The next day he left early in the morning without saying hello and didn't come home that night. He came back on the third day with a long face and was lukewarm to me. He didn't say a few words. On the fourth day he was in a bad mood because of nothing. We had a quarrel over a trivial matter, and he uttered the words "bitch" harshly. My heart couldn't bear to be hurt anymore. Everything in the past had cultivated my ability to face it calmly. I firmly told him that we should divorce.
Just like that, I got divorced again after less than a year of marriage and returned to being single. On the day when the divorce procedures were completed, my ex-husband told me in pain that maybe you would never tell me and just hide it from me for the rest of your life. I fell into a strange circle of confusion. What kind of deep connection does a man have with that thin membrane? Women have a hymen to show their chastity. What do men use to prove their purity?
Now I am used to being single. If I can't find the right person, I would rather live alone. There are also benefits to divorce. No one will endlessly question whether you are a virgin.
Losing one's virginity for an adult woman is not a moral issue at all. On the contrary, it is one of the positive results of the act of body liberation. The real moral crisis can only come from people's hearts, that is, from the belief in constitutional government, justice, legal principles, and freedom. , justice, equality, care and the disregard and attack on all basic human rights. So, let’s not let a small piece of hymen obscure our vision
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